Singleness, Not a Curse

With Valentine’s Day coming tomorrow, I wanted to put out a little encouragement for my single friends out there. Also some advice for my married friends too.


Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be a sad time for singles. Relationships are idolized in our culture. They are held on such a high pedestal that to be single is seen almost as a curse. Many people spend so much time seeking a companion that they never get to know themselves. They want to avoid the devistating feeling of loneliness. It is a real struggle! I have many days where I feel isolated and unloved. But this doesn’t have to be.

How can singleness be a benefit? How can it actually be a joyful time? Here is a brief list of tips and benefits I’ve found in singleness.

  • Focus on the things you have, not the things you don’t have.
  • Enjoy the company of the people around you. They’re by your side because they really do love you.
  • Use singleness as a time for self discovery.
  • It’s a chance to learn about other people, their differences, and what you may actually want/need in a relationship.
  • Live in the now, concern over a relationship will make you miserable.
  • This is an opportunity to accomplish greater things. You have no one tying you down.

For you couples!

  • Be companionate. Sometimes being single really sucks.
  • Be greatful for the one you have.
  • Cherish the singles you have in your life. Invite them to be part of your life! Most of us want to be treated no differently than your married friends.

A relationship may require selflessness, but I believe singleness requires even more.

Singleness is not just time to search for a companion. It’s the best time for self discovery. Singleness is not for the weak. It takes great courage. Singleness is not a curse. It’s an opportunity.


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